personal development

Are You A Creative or A Critic

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Are you one of those people who can be seen typing furiously in response to a youtube video or a facebook post? Do you have fifteen one-star reviews on amazon because some things just don’t match up to your expectations? Are you always disappointed by the books and movies you consume, always giving people within earshot a piece of your mind? Are there people within earshot left given how much you complain about everything?

If you answered, “Yes,” to all of the above, you’re most likely a critic. I was listening to one of the episodes on the school of greatness, and the guest — Michael Port — was saying, you’re either a critic or a creative but you can’t be both. How things work is that the harsher a critic you are to other people’s work, the harsher a critic you are to your own work, so you’re less likely to produce.

And it really hit me how most of the people I come across are critics,and yet it is true their creative output wavers around the zero line. They complain about how everything is horrible or has room for improvement. And funny enough they are the ones who are more likely to care so much what others think about their lives.
But if you’re a creative, you’re too busy learning your craft, and producing work to leave a comment on someone’s youtube channel. You’re too busy producing work to care what other people’s response to it is. You’re too busy ignoring your inner critic — and your outer critic…

And yes, maybe there is room for critics in this world, since after all, reading reviews before spending time and money on a book or other piece of art is not a bad idea, but does the critic have to be you? There are many critics in the world already…give them space to work while you work on your own art.

So which one are you? Decide today; are you a creative or a critic?
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The Sky Isn’t Always Blue and Other Things

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Once in my previous job, one of my colleagues used to complain about the lack of blue skies in the region…He flew from South Africa to the Gulf region, what did he expect in a world where summers get so hot, Alarabiya news once reported a video showing people frying an egg on the road? Of course, the sky isn’t blue because the hot sun dispels the blueness out of it.

But we stereotype for a reason; it makes our lives easier. If we didn’t stereotype, we’d always study a new design of a door knob suspiciously wondering what it was. But we understand that due to its location on a door, that thing is probably a door knob not a door blob.

The danger happens when we extend this stereotyping to people, putting them into tiny, tiny boxes and labeling these tiny, tiny boxes using tiny, tiny words. Because if we look at ourselves, we are very complex beings. Yet we fail to acknowledge the same thing about others. They’re either good or bad, kind or evil. We would like to believe we know how we would behave in a particular situation, and yet the truth is, we don’t know unless we find ourselves in that situation.

The other day I came to the realization that I don’t like overly sweet/friendly/perfect people. My first reaction is, what are they trying to hide? My second reaction is to run the other way. During one of our psychoanalytical sessions, I realized I’ve been burnt by this personality more than once. In front of your face they’re all sweet and friendly. Behind your back, they’re totally different people. And I end up feeling stupid because I ask myself; how did I not see it coming? But that’s blatant stereotyping over there and maybe I need to change that about myself.

In uni, we had a professor who would say this whenever we would complain towards the stressful end of a semester, “Now you’re in the middle of the storm, and your point of view is distorted. You might change your mind about this once you’re out of the storm.”
So here’s a conclusion; As much as we would like to simplify things and pretend to be rational beings, we’re not. We’re complex beings who experience the world in totally unique ways. As I mentioned in “Reflect on Your Defining Moments”, we’re the triple integration of our personal values, experiences and social conditioning.

So celebrate your unique and complex being, and acknowledge that others are unique and complex as well….

And that the sky is not always blue.

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Why Do You Have To Struggle For Every Little Thing In Your Life

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legs-1031653_1920A friend of mine voiced this fact once… “I have to fight for every little thing in my life…my family…my weight…my husband…my health” (she survived cancer).

But maybe she doesn’t see it in herself; she’s one of the kindest, strongest, most fascinating people I’ve ever met in my life. And I find myself thinking that sometimes our struggles exist to help us grow into the strong, compassionate people we’re supposed to be…As Srini Rao — author of Unmistakable — says occasionally in his Unmistakable Creative podcast, “some people go through post-traumatic stress, while others go through post-traumatic growth.”

This in no way or shape diminishes those who go through post-traumatic stress, but it also shows that pain and stress aren’t always the only thing waiting at the end of that long tunnel of life’s struggles. Sometimes what lies there is a sense of growth, wisdom, peace, and the inner security that you can handle hard challenges.

“What doesn’t break you makes you stronger,” is a cliche for a reason…Challenges build your resilience, your threshold for pain, your attitude in life, your support system. They also give you a chance to be grateful when you’re not facing a challenge. So don’t dismiss them just like that, as they appear in your life for a reason.

This is a reminder for myself more than others.

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