Do you suffer from control issues?

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So I was trying to work on converting a results image from a linux-based form to jpg and the result was something like this.  I am not sure what the actual image is supposed to look like but I know that this is not it. To tell you the truth it made me think of shooting stars for some reason, and suddenly I found myself on this blog.

Today I find myself reflecting on matters of the heart. The other day I was watching a video of an open-heart surgery and I was mesmerized. Of course, my reaction would have been different if there wasn’t a screen between me and the patient’s open chest since blood makes me queasy. But I thought of how little control we really have over our own hearts, let alone our own lives. When the heart beats normally, we tend to take it for granted. We eat all the wrong things and don’t do enough exercise to take care of it. We don’t really think much about it, and whether or not we’re letting it strain with the effort of carrying our weights around. But if God forbid, the heart’s beats start to change and turn erratic- racing, skipping beats or fluttering – suddenly all attention turns toward to it. Crash carts start rolling, defib pads and paddles get prepared for that heart in distress.

And naturally, I remembered this Hadeeth

So whenever you feel like your control issues are getting the best of you, just close your eyes and listen to your heart. Let it remind you that there’s little you can actually control.


A Lesson in Gratitude

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The blessing of health is one that we often take for granted. Yet when our eyes fall on patients surrounded by formidable machines and monitors, with wires snaking in and out of their bodies, we start to really appreciate this great blessing. The hospital scene is one that people normally avoid. Some don’t like to witness other people’s miseries; those anxiously waiting outside of operating doors reading pages from the quraan, those shuffling around while holding their IV poles, those feeding their children clothed in green gowns and a bandana to hide the heads made bald by chemotherapy.  Some don’t like the smell of antiseptic. Period.

But visiting the sick doesn’t only help us appreciate our own health. It also shows us the strength of the human spirit. Sometimes the sight of the sick with their smiles and their animated conversations inspires us to stop sweating the small stuff and approach life with contentment. They teach us to face life with a smile and to say alhamdullilah no matter what difficulties we might be going through.

The writer Saad Aldosary posted an image on his twitter of this boy praying in a hospital prayer room with his IV pole connected.


Hadeeth of the Day [1]


Read also: The Attitude of Gratitude 

[1] Hadeeth copied from

Thirty Days to Change

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People prepare for Ramadan in different ways. Some people put more TV ads marketing new Khaliji series, and others rush to supermarkets and load multiple shopping carts in preparation for the month of fasting, while others reflect on their lives and decide what religious goals they would like to achieve in this Holy month.

They say it takes thirty days to develop a good habit, while it takes the same amount of time to remove a bad habit. So instead of seeing Ramadan as a temporary pause from one’s daily routine, maybe it’s time for us to start seeking new habits to permanently add to our routine.

We all have twenty four hours every day. In Ramadan, we tend to spend these hours differently. So when it’s not Ramadan someone might sit and watch TV after dinner, while during Ramadan, they get up to pray Isha’a and Taraweeh in the masjid. And instead of scrolling through one’s twitter timeline the moment one wakes up, they could spend the time reading Quraan. But when Ramadan ends, old habits start kicking in. That’s because mentally, we think that what happens during Ramadan should stay in Ramadan. However, religious good deeds like giving in charity, reading Quraan, praying Sunnah prayers are rewarded throughout the year.

The sad thing is some people might refrain from being more religious during the month of Ramadan because they tend to judge others and claim, “At least I am not fake and I’m not pretending to be good for one month only.” Yet the truth is Ramadan had been a turning point for many people. So this year, make it yours.

Hadeeth of the Day:

1.عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال : ( إذا جاء رمضان فُتّحت أبواب الجنة ، وغُلّقت أبواب النار ، وصُفّدت الشياطين ) رواه  مسلم

Narrated by Abu Huraira that the prophet (PBUH) said, “When the month of Ramadan starts, the gates of the heaven are opened and the gates of Hell are closed and the devils are chained.” 

 2.عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : ( من صام رمضان إيمانا واحتسابا ، غُفر له ما تقدم من ذنبه)  رواه البخاري ومسلم

Narrated by Abu Huraira(r.a): The Prophet said: “Whoever observes fasts during the month of Ramadan out of sincere faith, and hoping to attain Allah’s rewards, then all his past sins will be forgiven” 

(c) T. Galvez
(c) T. Galvez

At times of uncertainty

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There are parts in our paths that are plunged into darkness. We get filled with doubt and uncertainty. A friend of mine once asked, why is it that when people do things the wrong way, they get what they want but those who do it honestly, don’t? The question resonated with me and it took me a while to come up with an answer. I figured out that maybe our tests are different, uniquely-tailored. Maybe her test was to see all those people taking the wrong paths to what they desire, and see if she is going to be strong enough to stick to the right track, while their test is just to know the taste of these short-cuts and see if one day or another, they’re going to change.

Interesting enough, since I last saw her, she spoke to me telling me that the thing she was talking about; it had finally worked out, all praise is due to Allah (SWT).

So lately it has become easy to get me subdued. Blame it on the summer heat that has commenced with a fiery zeal after the spring showers or on all the horrific news headlines that are inundating my twitter time line, so I occasionally try to remind myself with this small poem I wrote once,

“I will not let anything get me down,
Whenever something starts to bother me
I imagine the wide expanse of sea and sky,
adorned by a glorious bleeding sun
I see the wide expanse of sand and sky
That show us how tiny we are in the wide scope of things
And I mutter
اللهم أرزقني حسن التوكل عليك”



This is a reminder to myself just in case I forgot.