In Sarah Kay’s poem, If I should have a daughter, she says, “ There is hurt, here, that cannot be fixed by band-aids or poetry, so the first time she realizes that Wonder-woman isn’t coming, I’ll make sure she knows she doesn’t have to wear the cape all by herself.”
Sometimes it’s better to wear the cape all by yourself, because it’s liberating. You no longer feel an obligation towards anybody, because nobody really helped you wear the cape, so they don’t get a say on how high you fly. And one more thing, you might want to drop the people who weigh you down. Drop them gently so they don’t feel the impact, and they get to walk away safe and sound, but drop them nonetheless. Because let’s be realistic, you can’t heal all the pain in the world, even if you wanted to.
Some people, they’re going to enter your life to ruin things for you, so at the first sign of danger, do yourself a favor, turn and walk away. It’s not selfish. It’s a means of self-preservation. Sometimes when you’re a nice person, people abuse your niceness, then they take you for granted, then they walk away to better pastures. Be grateful when they walk away. Don’t be sad, be grateful. Because you didn’t need such people in your life to begin with. Some people need to realize that if they can’t handle you at your worst, then they don’t deserve you at your best. So a quick trick is to show them your worst – right from the start – to know where they stand.
And if it scares them off, let it be.
And that’s my cynical message for the day.