Self centered introverts

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So the other day my friend and I were having this discussion about whether introverts are more self centered than others. The initial conclusion is yes we tend to be self centered because we spend so much time alone that we can’t help but love our own company which basically translates into a high degree of self-centeredness. We care more about what we do, who we spend time with, what we like and dislike because we spend most of the time with ourselves.
But if you really look around, most people are self-centered. They always try to tune to , WII-FM (what’s in it for me). The only difference is in the degree of self-centeredness. Some people are more concerned with themselves than others. Then you have other people who exhibit their self-centeredness in different ways. Take extroverts for example. A lot of extroverts love the attention on themselves. They go out with many friends, are surrounded by a crowd, etc etc etc. In order to have their brains overstimulated enough, they seek out experiences that shines the spotlight on -who else- them?
While introverts would exhibit their self-centeredness by not giving other people the pleasure of their company and enjoying their own solitude, extroverts exhibit their self-centeredness by hanging out with more people, which is why the general perception is that extroverts are not so self-centered.
Am I even making sense? What do you think of the topic? I would really like your opinion on the topic.



8 thoughts on “Self centered introverts

    Annie Gravity said:
    April 21, 2013 at 11:34 am

    Well, I think you’re right. Though it may appear that extroverts are less self-centered because they surround themselves with others most of the time and get their energy from social situations, they exhibit their self-centeredness in their desire to be the centre of attention. For example, though this is not always the case, they would prefer to talk than to listen and are more domineering than passive. I believe these can be egoistic triats, but introverts are also egoistic, just in the opposite sense of the word in that they don’t share their thoughts at all and prefer their own company to that of others. But I think the general perception of extroverts is such because they are domineering types who create these perceptions. The louder you are, the easier you’re heard, right?

      AH responded:
      April 22, 2013 at 7:15 am

      Exactly. I’ve known a lot of extroverts who are so self-centered but just because they take some time out to meet people (because they’re wired that way) others sit and praise them all the time while calling introverts selfish. So at least now I know how to deal with it.

    theayasalah said:
    April 25, 2013 at 8:24 pm

    Interesting viewpoints. Actually I’ve always personally had the image that introverts were LESS selfish than extroverts. Introverts don’t necessarily avoid people because they prefer their own company, but sometimes they just have awkward social skills, or they’re very quiet, or they simply feel disconnected. It doesn’t mean they want to be that way. Of course, they can also be self-centered, but I think everyone is self-centered to a certain degree; anyone with an ego, anyways. I don’t think introverts are any more (or less!) susceptible to it. Just my two cents!

    sheenakh said:
    May 21, 2013 at 3:31 pm

    This is really strange @ theayasalah, this post too reflects my emotions. I am very surprized πŸ™‚ I have never met someone who had same opinions even in a few things but this post….. I guess introverts do have awkward social skills and they are quiet and thats why they never find out that with whom they share common interests….. well dear you have me hooked to your blog πŸ™‚ God bless you

    sheenakh said:
    May 21, 2013 at 3:32 pm

    * surprised *

    sheenakh said:
    May 21, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    @Annie Gravity ” introverts are also egoistic, just in the opposite sense of the word in that they don’t share their thoughts at all and prefer their own company to that of others.” I agree. Its funny how I am discovering whats “wrong” with me πŸ˜€ I am an introvert ! great

    June price said:
    February 16, 2017 at 6:52 am

    Isn’t it funny because I See it as the exact opposite. extroverts think the more the merrier so are quite happy in large crowds. How can the attention of everyone in a large crowd be on just one person, unless they are on stage. Like if you have a group of extroverts on a night out, the attention is not just on one of them. With introverts however, they seem to prefer one on one dinners etc so it would seem they like that because all the attention is on them, one other person is with them and paying attention to them. That is how I experience it anyway with my introvert friends. They hate coming out to a noisy bar because they cannot have a deep discussion. I don’t feel the need to talk in a noisy bar, but instead, to people watch and dance to the live music etc. So I feel it is the introvert who is actually looking for the attention.

      AH responded:
      February 16, 2017 at 6:57 am

      Thanks for your insightful comment. This blog has now become secondary to my main blog;
      Visit that one as it has newer posts and is updated more frequently.

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