Month: April 2012
I’ve been feeling quite upset lately for so many reasons. No matter how much you try to ignore sometimes, there are people out there who just want to test your limits. In the simplest example, I told someone “Assalam aleikum” once and they responded with their back to me by saying, “aha” (illi huwa, ‘go on, what do you want?’). And that’s just the simplest example I am allowing myself to post in an attempt to explain why I’ve been totally “off” lately.
It gets worse when some of these are people you can’t really avoid and you just have to deal with them. It’s good that at least I have a brother who’s willing to listen to me ranting about how I’m being mistreated.I call my brother my buffer because he keeps my mood stable by absorbing the extra electrons when I’m really pissed off.
Worse thing is that since it’s towards the end of the semester, it doesn’t seem like things are going to get any better any time soon, so I’m just going to close my eyes and pray that things just pass by quickly and peacefully.
When I took the corrosion course during my undergrad, there was an answer that frequently found itself in multiple choice questions; “Live with it.” The basic idea is that corrosion is inevitable and sometimes you can delay it by using corrosion inhibitors or by a change in process design or pipeline sizing, but most often than not you are going to have to live with it.
Same applies to some things in our lives; relationships that you have to live with, whether in school or work or at home. People that you can’t really stand but have to work with anyway. This could apply to married couples who stay together just for the children; they make a choice to not do anything, and decide to ‘live with it’. It could also apply to situations in your life; when something has gone horribly wrong; like a failed attempt or a major mistake that resulted in a fiasco. You’re just going to have to live with it.
Having to ‘live with it’ takes strength if you ask me. Not everybody can undergo a hardship, and face it with patience. Some people would intoxicate themselves to forget, and it’s their attempt to run away from it, whatever it is. But then there are others who don’t let it affect them, and they go on with life knowing that next time around, they could try to avoid it but if it was inevitable, then they’re going to have to live with it. Some of these things that we have to deal with everyday; they were here before us and they’ll be here after us, so we are just going to have to ‘live with it’ as best as we can.
Your task today is to figure out what in your life can be likened to corrosion; what in your life that you have to live with whether you like it or not…
Sometimes you find yourself surrounded by terrible events. Maybe your friends have deserted you, or your family has shunned you, maybe you’re financially and emotionally broke, and maybe all of the above happened all at once. People normally refer to their life as “crumbling down” all around them. But for some people, a different view could be taken and things would be “crumbling up” sort of like the video below.
The thing is, people react to such events differently. Some people react to severed relationships by building a thick wall around them, so that they don’t get hurt again. It’s well known that if you don’t want to get hurt then stop caring too much. While these people might be viewed as cold but never judge them because they’re just reacting to circumstances and doing the best that they could do with what was given to them. So once those thick walls are built around them so they lock themselves in a fortress devoid of any warm human connection, the act itself is like a wall “crumbling up.”
Some people rise above the experience and use it to make themselves better people. It’s like the case of a person who owns a wooden kiosk, and it falls down in flames caused by an arsonist. Then he ends up winning enough money in a legal case to build himself a kiosk out of steel the next time around. So in other words, though his kiosk had “crumbled down” initially, the final results is that of a kiosk “crumbling up”.
It’s like that quote; “sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
P.S. I’m publishing this without editing it so please alert me if there are any typos.