So to comment on the comments of The Mask People Wear, first we need to distinguish between the term ‘wearing masks’ and having privacy . We all hide private stuff from people because it’s normal. However, by wearing masks, I mean people who portray to others that which they are not. Examples might have of people who drive huge cars that they got from bank loans just to fit in with society when in reality they can’t even afford the car or the lifestyle they’re living. I mean, people who hate each other inside but talk to each other like old pals. People learn to wear masks from such a young age, and I see it in the teenagers who emulate pop stars just to fit in with their friends at school. People who wallow in gossip everyday when they don’t like doing it, but because that’s the pastime of their group, so what to do? (for those who don’t want to see the comments, my opinion in the blue paragraph)
The best comment I received was, “sumtimes you just have to hide certain weaknesses or faults becuz you know that showing it won’t help you overcome them nor will make you feel any better, it’ll only make you more vulnerable and needy without getting enough support in return from ppl… who happen to be just as helpless as you are sometimes….. so i dont really see the mask concept applies on this case..sometimes its merely losing hope in people’s power and putting all faith in Allah’s power …however, not admitting to those weaknesses n faults is the unwanted attitude.. life gets so busy that we fail to have a sit down with our true selves and workk on our unresolved matters.”
Other interesting lines include, “We all have two sides, at least. the good side and the not too good side. It just depends on who we chose to be with every person that we come across.”
” showing your real face can have very bad consequences, because after all, people only see your through their own distorted lenses”
“Yes i do wear a mask…but not in the sense that i am fake! We have in mind that those with masks are two faced. No its not. I believe everyone has one on…its a part of us…”
And about the masks one wears to one’s own self, the comments were, “Facing yourself, accepting who you are, is a big, big achievement that most people never succeed at.You can’t take off the mask if you don’t know what you look like without it.”
“But then my discussion with you AH makes me think, is it really a good idea to drop off all the masks? I think maybe when it comes to oneself..maybe.”
Upon the reason, why people wear masks, we have this comment, “On a side note, I believe that it is the surroundings that you grow up with also plays an important role in determining what side of your personality you would like them to see and which side you’d rather have hidden from everyone.”
Then there’s, “i could say lack of self confidence but yet again we humans have this urge for everyone to like us, be in the cricle of the society, trying our best not to be outcast.”
I agree with most comments, and I’d say since we have come to the conclusion that most of us wear masks, and tend to hide our faults and weaknesses, sometimes wearing masks comes out of necessity. Some of my friends can’t imagine this, but sometimes I put on the “DramaQueen” mask just to get what I want from my family. Why? Because it’s what works.
However, cases where chronic mask-wearing can become serious is when people blindly emulate others without thinking for themselves, and the most prominent example is of the teen emulating pop stars to fit in and be ‘cool’. Because then the person might grow up without a sense of identity or individuality, so that they can’t even take their own decisions and have others run their lives by others. And you might see people who seek acceptance in any way even if deep, deep down inside it goes against their own values and principles. So yes, as mentioned in the comments, “Facing yourself, accepting who you are, is a big, big achievement that most people never succeed at.”
But I disagree with, “You can’t take off the mask if you don’t know what you look like without it.” Just because you don’t know how you look like without a mask doesn’t mean you can’t take it off. Taking it off might cause some confusion, but it’ll take time for the person to study and figure out his identity without the forces of the people around shaping them. Maybe the person will need help from a close friend to let them see who they are inside, like the person who grew up with a tough dad who taught him that crying is only for girls, and thus the boy grows up translating his anger in any way OTHER than crying; he would punch people, throw things, but never cry because he doesn’t know what it is to cry. But if someone notices that thing in him and makes him aware that he’s only exhibiting his anger through violence because he is not used to anything else, he might end up changing, you never know.