When I shared “Stuck In The Rut?!” over a year ago, it’s funny how many of my friends thought that the note was inspired by what’s happening in their lives at the moment, because it seems many of us are on the same boat, and symbolically speaking, I guess it’s sinking. I think the main reason why we are on the same boat is actually because at our stage of our lives, we’re a bit too restless. We haven’t been anchored yet by the default set of responsibilities to worry about. And since we haven’t been anchored, we’re still floating, and thus, are susceptible to sinking. Makes sense, right?
But the catch is that there’s a ray of hope there…we’re still floating even if at times we feel like we’re sinking, we haven’t reached the ocean bed yet. And how do I know that? Because we’re still thinking about how to improve ourselves, our lives and the lives of those around us. Actually, it’s such a blessing alhamdullilah that we are still thinking in the first place. Because some people have given up on that too.
Trust me, one of the worse feelings in the world is the feeling of “getting stuck”. I know people who are stuck in their various stages of life, and it sucks. Getting stuck means no progress. It means having this desire-to move ahead-burst against your chest and yet feeling like you’re being held back because you’re trying to push a wall. Ever tried to push a wall? You can go try it once you’re done reading. What about running on a treadmill in hopes of reaching a place which is a mile away? Yes, you’re getting tired, yes, you’re burning calories and losing weight. But are you going anywhere in the literal sense, or are you still in the same place? That’s what getting stuck means.
And yet to some people – the ones who have sunk for so long that they no longer know what being afloat feels like- getting stuck has become a deadend that adds nothing but misery in their lives. And they accept it, and fail to think about it anymore, because that’s just life. Some people are stuck in miserable marriages, and others are stuck in miserable jobs.
And the reasons? Children, money, the status quo, appearances…whatever you want. And it’s not like I support people who break up a “miserable” marriage just because it’s “miserable”, but I do not support those who don’t do anything to change their misery, and sit instead, and accept their sunken state because …oh well…just because. Does it matter why?
They’re too tired to think about it anyway.
Yes, I know we need to live in the “Now” timeframe, and discipline ourselves not to get carried away with our thoughts. But we shouldn’t also be one of those people who live on auto-pilot, and stop thinking altogether, filling our heads instead with ‘thoughts’ about the next paycheck, the next entertaining event to watch, the next football match….And I guess the test that our thoughts must pass is how much of it is turned into useful action that can help us help humanity in general and the Muslim Ummah in specific.
That’s today’s food for thought, or shall I say…suhoor for thought?