How many times have you heard of a successful person say that a turning point in their life was when they looked at themselves in the mirror and told their reflection to do something, “Because you can”?
I personally look back at my life, and how I moved out of a job and into grad school. A lot of people around me couldn’t wrap their minds around the idea that I was ready to be paid less of what I used to be paid. So at the beginning I met a lot of resistance. Yet what made me ignore them is that simple line, “Because I can.”
Back then, I used to look around me and I saw so many people stuck to jobs they hated because of their responsibilities in life (taking care of spouses, children, old parents), and I found myself thinking along the lines, “They can’t really quit because they have responsibilities. But I can, because later, I might end up in their same situation, with more responsibilities so I wouldn’t be able to leave.”
There is a famous story that is continuously used to talk about the concept of self limiting belief. In the past, people used to believe that it was impossible to run a mile under 4 minutes, until Roger Bannister did it on the 6th of May in 1954. The amazing part of the story is the moment Roger did it, a lot of athletes began breaking the 4 minute record. Why? Because they realized that they could.
So recently I discovered that the origin of the word “confidence” is Latin “confidere” which means “with trust”. A lot of times we might think that self-confidence is something we are either born with or not. However, it is something we can build somehow because most of it starts from inside our minds; it starts with what we tell ourselves. So maybe we need to learn to trust ourselves more and start believing, “Because I can.”
If you think at what you’ve been given, you’ll realize that Allah (SWT) has given you a lot of blessings that you could use in your strive to achieve something. Whether it is a talent or the opportunity to develop a skill. Even supportive people around you are a blessing you should never take for granted because sometimes you might not be willing to tell yourself, “Because I can,” so you might need someone else to push you and tell you, “You might think that you cannot, but yes, you can (In Sha Allah or if Allah wills of course).”