It’s funny how growing up, one of the basic needs of a teenage soul is to fit in and belong. Whether it is a certain clique or a gang, this need is so strong, some people do the strangest things just to be accepted by the in-crowd. From tying bandanas around their heads to wearing baggy pants sagging so low they might as well have been used as shackles and the spikes that give them the Sonic-The Hedgehog look. Maybe this is done out of self-preservation more than anything as being accepted would mean that others will not bully you and even if they do you’d have your own clique to protect you.
But then lately, I’ve been thinking if we ever grow out of that. Maybe it’s just the cliques that get redefined with age. Instead of rebelling against ‘society’, society becomes the new clique whose approval and acceptance we seek. I remember a high school teacher who used to say, “Everyone of you has a gold mine inside of you.”
But instead of working hard to discover the gold mine in terms of our unique gifts and talents, we tend to wear fake accessories given by others just so that people will not talk ill of us, or talk ill to us. Just so that people will put on their fake smiles and pretend to approve of us. The irony is that by us being ingenuine to ourselves we attract others to be ingenuine to us, yet can we really blame them now can we?
A friend of mine once posted; “I surprised myself today… Surprised myself by what I said and how I carried myself… A persona for the public that sounded so confident, and I almost believe I’ve found myself, that I know who I am… That I see what people see… But in an instant I fade, just like the cradled moon behind the opaque clouds like a chalk smudge on black card stock, I’m fuzzy about who I am and who I want to be… Maybe it’s my destiny to live life discovering all the way…”
So it makes me think , it’s okay to still be figuring it out. It’s an ongoing process, where we trip and stand up, where we take one step forward, two steps backwards, three steps to the side….As long as we expand our minds everyday, and keep on learning, keep on striving, keep on growing. It is much better than avoiding the pain of growth or numbing it out just so we would get the “Approval” stamp.
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